Certain forays into sexual territory, like attempting an unintentional new position requires nothing more than an ounce of courage, a bit of communication, and maybe a excellent lube. Other times, such as stepping into a sexual swing for the first-time–may be a little more daunting.
A lot of people don’t understand what a sex sling is, so we requested Victor Tobar, national buying and merchandising manager of The Pleasure Chest, and lover of sex swings to clarify. “My first time using the sling was during the sex club at the dark dungeon in NYC. I was there with a friend who was wearing the sling. I’m sure we were in a state of being nervous about trying something new, especially making a public appearance, and extremely excited to test this new form of bondage” Tobar says.
The swing isn’t too difficult (nor do they only come accessible at sex events–more about this further down the line): “Think of a swing on a playground but designed for people of all ages,” says Tobar. “They differ in their form, meaning that the person that is in the sling will be either completely or partly reclined. Certain slings feature some or all of them which connect to a bolt in the ceiling, while others are equipped with free-standing frames meaning you don’t need to take out the electric tools to get them,” the expert says. One thing that all swings share is that they provide the person who is who is standing on solid ground greater access to their swinging body.
As getting to the point of being comfortable (yes pun intended) will require some preparation, you’ll need to discuss the idea first. “Introducing an idea your partner could be as simple as chatting about trying out new positions or being about trying something new and exciting that will raise your intimacy experience,” says Santos, an Pleasure Chest employee who’s experimented with sex swings prior to.
To find out the facts about how to swing a sex We asked experts for all the information you need before you try it.
Buy Cheap
So now that you’re agreed What do you do to go to a test drive? If you’re thinking of trying out with a sex swing at your home, first you’ll want to go with a budget-friendly option, says Reid Mihalko, a sex and relationship expert, as well as the host at the upcoming Sex Expo. Determine if you’re into the idea before you invest in an expensive swing (just be aware that cheaper models aren’t as comfortable and you could end up wishing for more padding). Sex swings vary in price from less than $100 to as high as $500.
Get Assistance
To find out how to swing take a look at an online shop for sex toys for women where you can speak to someone who is better equipped to help you instead of Google suggests Mihalko. (He listed The Pleasure Chest, Babeland, Good Vibrations as well as Smitten Kitten as top picks in New York City.) Depending on the type of swing you get, you may have to do a little home renovation/installation, so for first timers or apartment dwellers, look for free-standing swings or slings you can put over the back of a door.
Trying one out for the first time can require a bit of troubleshooting–just like a swing on the playground or a hammock, it moves as you’re trying to climb in (duh) and get settled. “It required a amount of time to understand,” says Tobar. “A small amount of laughter can help make it easier to try something different.”
Be Open To Experimentation
“People make use of sex swings to perform a variety of different things,” says Tobar. One reason is that they make things more interesting. A swing is a great way to experiment with moves aren’t possible on the couch or bed. Furthermore, he states that there’s a sense of power play and bonding taking place, as the person on the swing is in a more restricted position in their normal position. “Most important, I believe that sex swings create the feeling of adventure and enjoyment. Being suspended and bound and in the hands of your partner is a thrilling experience. In addition, he notes that the swinging process requires an enormous amount of faith, it could be a very intimate and intimate event.
“My date with her in the sling gave me access to many possibilities since I was in control, and was able to design a variety of different experiences for her. This was incredible and enjoyable for me.” Tobar says. “Something I loved about it was the ability to create a lasting sensation that wasn’t only focused on penetration. Think massaging and chewing.” In the course of the process of penetration, all that energy can be translated into more intensity, and straps to hold on to can provide the strength you require to keep a posture for longer, he adds. The most secure sex positions for swinging are ones in which both of you face one another. The swinging partner is lying on their backs with their legs separated and the partner standing is in between them.
Have Fun!
But most importantly “go into the event with a fun approach,” Mihalko says. “Make this more about playing enjoyment and adventure. The hot and sexy girls will appear later. Once you’ve got the hang of it you will notice that it gets more hot and sexier over time.”
Consider it as releasing your childish side in a mature manner. “I believe that slings can be very effective in creating a feeling of surrender. When you’re in the sling, it allows you to lean physically and emotionally into it and open your mind to a variety of experiences” Tobar says. Tobar. “For me having a swing feels like a release. It is the moment when I can let go of my control and let myself feel my body and to experience the many experiences my partner is taking my through.”
Happy dancing!